Creations of Film, Media and Animation





director/concept: Merle Grimme

camera: Felix Pflieger & Thomas Spitschka

editing: Merle Grimme

interviews: Merle Grimme & Felizitas Hoffmann

research: Felizitas Hoffmann

sound: Michael Prechtl/Rabelle Erian

producer: Salome Tomasek

production: wirFILM Bertolone & Ehlayil GbR &

University of Television and Film Munich (HFF Munich)



Jury Award - ZEIT Vermächtnisstudie, sponsored by Federal Foreign Office



director/concept: Merle Grimme & Felizitas Hoffmann

camera: Felix Pflieger & Thomas Spitschka

editing: Andreas Baltschun

sound: Michael Prechtl/Rabelle Erian

excecutive producer: Marie Freund/Julian Anselmino

production: DREIFILM & University of Television and

Film Munich (HFF Munich)



bi'bakino Bi'bak

Filmschool Fest Munich 2017

24th Etiuda&Anima 2017 Kraków (Poland)

10th filmzeitkaufbeuren 2017

University Hildesheim, "What We Mean By Feminism"

11th Fünf Seen Festival 2017

23rd International Short Film Week Regensburg 2017


DOK.fest - - marketplace 2017 | Projects Young

Filmmakers Award 2016 | FINALIST





director/concept: Merle Grimme

camera: Felix Pflieger

editing: Merle Grimme

sound: Charlotte Funke

music/sounddesign: ISOLA MUSIC

excecutive producer: Nicolai Fitzgerald &

Marie Freund

production: University of Television and Film Munich

(HFF München)





Everyone wants children. And once you have children, everything will work out OK.

A promise that is not always fulfilled and not for every woman.

The film addresses the questions: Why does a woman (not) want children? What effect does it have on her and on her role in society? In German society, having children is still seen as a path to fulfilment and unending maternal joy for a woman. Yet it’s not only the mothers who suffer as a result of this outdated role model. Indeed, young women asking themselves precisely whether they want children often have the feeling that they shouldn’t even be asking themselves this question: They must want children.

In the film women aged between 14 and 88 try to answer these questions. How have we lived as women to date, how do we want to live as women in future and how can we generate more acceptance for different lifestyles? By talking about these things.

A view to the Legacy study: The desire for a traditional family with a child was considered far more contentious in the study than, e.g., gainful employment. Merle Grimme takes the opportunity to question various women on this topic.


Produced for the Legacy Study of DIE ZEIT and the Short Film Competition

Die Zeit, infas and WZB together questioned a representative sample of 3,000 people in Germany for their Legacy Study. The study differs from normal surveys of opinions or life situations. Questions are asked about the present, about the desire to have children and grandchildren and about whether, from the subjective point of view, the desired development will actually occur.


Sponsored by: Federal Foreign Office

In cooperation with: DFA Production/The German Film Academy, infas and WZB










Deutschland hat eine der niedrigsten Geburtenraten der Welt. Frauen haben das Recht zu entscheiden, ob sie Mutter werden wollen oder nicht. Dennoch gibt es in der Gesellschaft immer noch die Erwartungshaltung, dass Frauen Kinder bekommen und eine Familie gründen sollten.


Den Regisseurinnen, Merle Grimme und Felizitas Hoffmann (beide 27 Jahre alt) wird die Frage "Willst du Kinder haben?" mit zunehmender Intensität immer häufiger gestellt. Aber was bedeutet es, eine Mutter zu werden? Was sind die Folgen für eine Frau? Gibt es negative Aspekte der Mutterschaft? Und was ist, wenn sich herausstellt, dass es das Leben nicht vollkommen erfüllt?


Wie in vielen anderen Ländern ist die Mutterschaft in Deutschland immer noch etwas Heiliges. Dies macht es fast unmöglich, den Status quo in Frage zu stellen, für Frauen offen und ehrlich darüber zu sprechen, was es bedeutet, eine Mutter zu sein. 2015 eröffnete sich in Deutschland ein Debatte über „Regretting Motherhood“. Dies ist der erste Dokumentarfilm, der sich mit dieser wichtige Debatte beschäftigt und Frauen eine Plattform bietet, frei und anonym über ihre Gefühle und Erfahrungen zu sprechen.



SYNOPSIS english


Germany has one of the lowest birthrates in the world. Women have the right to choose motherhood or not. Nevertheless, there is an expectation from society for women to have children, to raise a family.


For female directors, Merle Grimme and Felizitas Hoffmann, both 27 years old, the question "Do you want to have children?" is asked more than ever... With an increasing intensity. But what does it mean to become a mother? What are the consequences for a woman? Are there negative aspects to motherhood? And what if it turns out not to be the most fulfilling thing in life?


As in many countries, motherhood is something sacred to the German people. This makes it almost impossible to question the status quo, for women to speak openly and honestly about what it means to be a mother. In 2015 a conversation opened up throughout the country, about 'Regretting Motherhood'. This is the first documentary approaching this important debate, giving women a platform to talk freely and anonymously about their feelings and experiences.



director: Merle Grimme, Helena Eckert, Fanny Langner

concept: Merle Grimme

camera: Merle Grimme, Helena Eckert, Fanny Langner

editing: Merle Grimme, Helena Eckert, Fanny Langner

sound: Merle Grimme, Helena Eckert, Fanny Langner

producer: Merle Grimme, Helena Eckert, Fanny Langner


Zeitzeug_Festival 2014

Tagung: Making-of, Hildesheim

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